Man Shocked After He Witnesses ‘Worst First Date’ While Buying Boba (Exclusive)

First dates are inevitably awkward, but Cameron Carey believes he may have witnessed one of “the worst.”

Carey was waiting for his order at a boba shop when he overheard an awkward conversation between two other patrons who were clearly on a first date. Since the shop was small, he tells PEOPLE that he would have heard what they were saying no matter where he sat. 

“The guy starts, and he immediately says, ‘You know, you’re a much better conversationalist in person because you suck online. You sucked on Hinge.’ That makes my senses peak,” Carey recalls. “I’m thinking, ‘What are they talking about? Because that is a crazy thing to say.’ ”

Carey tells PEOPLE that the date began apologizing, “She said, ‘I’m so, so sorry. I’m not good at socialization; I’ve been working on my conversation skills.’ ”

Her date noted that he also doesn’t have much time to work on his conversation skills due to his work as a missionary. Then, he shockingly stated that he doesn’t consider the people he talks to on his mission trips to be people.

After realizing that his comment made her uncomfortable, he tried to backtrack, but the damage was already done. Carey listened as the man tried to move the conversation along, only for things to get even worse.

The date then asked the woman why she hadn’t touched her drink yet. She mentioned that she has an issue with frequent urination. Her date responds with, “‘Oh, you do?'” Carey recalls, noting that it was in a creepy tone.

“The secondhand embarrassment I felt for both of them was so bad I wanted to go, but I hadn’t got my food yet, so I have to sit here and keep listening to the conversation,” Carey tells PEOPLE.

“He said he has his friends review his Hinge and find out what to say for him. He’s not even the one who got the date with her; it was his friends. She was a little irked by that,” Carey adds. “He said, ‘Every time I get a match…’ and he made it seem like he gets a lot of Hinge matches. So she said, ‘Well, how many other girls are you talking to on Hinge?’ ”

Before Carey could hear his response, his name was called and he beelined it to the exit. Carey jokes that the woman probably wanted to leave after him and never look back.

Carey described the date as unkempt and said he was wearing a snapback, a dirty sweatshirt, and sweatpants. His date was physically uncomfortable during the whole experience. 

“She was very scrunched up and I think she was shy and when she said she was introverted, she meant it. She was bunched up into a ball, and she was keeping really close to herself,” Carey shares.

“This was way out of her comfort zone. I feel bad that you put yourself out there and you end up on a date with the weirdest guy of all time.”

Carey notes that the woman had no idea who she was actually meeting since her date’s friends manage his dating profile.

“He’s got his whole friend group creating a persona for him that doesn’t even actually exist. Many people he’s matching with are matching with a guy who’s not real.”

Carey also shares his advice for those looking to avoid going on a disastrous date similar to the one that he experienced.

“Dress nice and be normal. Women are just people. They’re not a separate sort of species,” he says. “Just treat them like you would any one of your friends, and that’s gonna go infinitely better than treating them like they’re a zoo animal.” 

Carey shared this experience with his audience on TikTok, noting that since he had to experience it, his audience should also have to. 

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“I watched this whole video and resent you for making all of us experience this,” one commenter added. 

“She was probably looking for a reason to leave, and I don’t blame her,” another user chimed in.